The quiet cruelty: Ostracism as intimate partner violence


Dvir M., BEŞİKCİ E., Williams K. D.

Current Opinion in Psychology, cilt.68, 2026 (SSCI, Scopus) identifier identifier

  • Yayın Türü: Makale / Derleme
  • Cilt numarası: 68
  • Basım Tarihi: 2026
  • Doi Numarası: 10.1016/j.copsyc.2025.102229
  • Dergi Adı: Current Opinion in Psychology
  • Derginin Tarandığı İndeksler: Social Sciences Citation Index (SSCI), Scopus, MEDLINE, Psycinfo
  • Uşak Üniversitesi Adresli: Evet

Özet

Ostracism—being ignored and excluded—threatens fundamental psychological needs and produces profound harm. Although behaviors like silent treatment, stonewalling, and emotional withdrawal are documented in intimate partner violence research, they have not been explicitly recognized as ostracism. This review integrates ostracism and intimate partner violence literature, arguing that these withdrawal-based behaviors constitute a significant form of partner maltreatment. Williams's temporal need-threat model (2009) explains why partner ostracism produces harm rivaling physical violence: it threatens belongingness, self-esteem, control, and meaningful existence. Evidence shows that victims who experienced both physical abuse and ostracism rate ostracism as more damaging, especially when it comes from a romantic partner. Partner ostracism fits clearly within psychological aggression definitions and appears across multiple relationship theories under different labels. Most critically, when ostracism co-occurs with coercive control that isolates victims from external support, it blocks the recovery pathway and accelerates progression into resignation, trapping victims in abusive relationships. Understanding ostracism as central to intimate partner violence has direct implications for intervention, prevention, and future research directions.